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+ @joe-sal She can't actually clarify, sorry. I just banned her for a year based on her complete unwillingness to restrain herself after multiple moderator warnings [. . .]
Joe Sal
+ Kim could you clarify this one, I'm interested but your shorthand isn't real clear. First sentences is good, second sentence sketchy, third sentence doesn't have much [. . .]
veronica d
+ @leeesq -- The PUA advice seems pretty hit-or-miss. After all, there are no real studies showing these techniques work. Instead, you have men bragging at [. . .]

@joe-sal FWIW, though we may butt heads at times, I'm very glad you are here.

Joe Sal
+ I wouldn't have mentioned it, but it is still happening. My son describing basically what I went through those many years ago. Girls he has [. . .]
+ @kim Look, you've put me in a really tight spot. I care about you. I care about your weird hard-to-parse but often emotionally powerful [. . .]
Chip Daniels

What is "GBTA"?

I am either old, or not up to date on my Liberal Taxonomy.

Kim
+ ... and to think, some people get offended by Holocaust jokes. I feel old now. Do you know what kind of jokes you can't tell? You can't have [. . .]
Chip Daniels
+ Why? The answer is right there in the picture. Who took the picture? Who was Franken mugging for, if not a crowd of bystanders? Were they laughing? [. . .]
Kim
+ Girls mature sexually about a year earlier than boys. (I can even cite Kinsley on that, although our nutrition has improved, so about a year [. . .]

Makes me wonder if it's a way to codify something that some guys are just into. :/

Kim
+ Morat20, And, what's worse? All the fun "gettogethers" about people's failing marriages, where women are leaned on (by older women, in general) to "Just get used [. . .]
Richard Hershberger
+ I think it also applies quite a bit to the older woman/young man dynamic even though that is probably less common in practice. The [. . .]
Kim
+ Maribou, From what I've seen on It's Always Sunny in Philadelphia (The DENNIS System), it's still cool for PUA to talk about feelings. ... they just need [. . .]
+ That's a good point JoeSal - personally I don't think that's actually true but people do say that and definitely did when I was growing [. . .]
Saul Degraw
+ @doctor-jay A social media friend of mine was discussing how disappointed he was with Al Franken yesterday because he saw Franken as one of the [. . .]
Pinky
+ Our scientists seem stumped by the problem of keeping Earth's temperature from increasing a couple of degrees every century. You want me to go [. . .]
veronica d
+ My observations: it seems like a lot of lonely men (mostly men), who have little experience with mutual attraction, build up this broken understanding of [. . .]
PD Shaw
+ I think the part about taking students to a house of worship with some participating in the call to prayer probably violates the Establishment Clause. [. . .]
+ My mom married a man 8 years her junior (he was 24) and it was much more scandalous than me only a few years later [. . .]
+ Exactly. And that's how it was, too. He would talk to me about perfectly reasonable things that mattered to him (and would matter [. . .]
Joe Sal
+ The problem I see with Cernovich, is that by himself he is not much to be of concern. The alien and disconnected part has to [. . .]
Richard Hershberger
+ FWIW, when I was in my 20s I would have been totally into dating a woman in her forties. I probably wouldn't have had [. . .]
Morat20
+ The empty vessel you describe? That's almost explicitly stated in certain evangelical circles, such as the Quiverfull movement, but even in less...edgy...evangelical circles, it's a [. . .]
LeeEsq
+ These things make loneliness easier to bear but they aren’t substitutes for romantic companionship. Even if you do get somebody when their older, you have [. . .]

Respectfully, @kim, I think you'll be better off commenting on other topics on other threads.

Joe Sal

Sincerely Chip, this is a damn good comment.

Oscar Gordon
+ That Cernovich story quite frankly reminded me of way too many people from my past. One of the really bad parts of Facebook is [. . .]
Kim
+ Kristin, In so far as the whole meme is out of the Dark Ages, (along with the Tall Dark and Handsome Stranger motif, which said gypsy [. . .]

Not dismissing them, I just don't want for you to embrace them too closely, my friend. :)

Kim
+ ...maybe you had to see the comic? I wouldn't have put it the way Trudy did, but I do think that there's some level of truth [. . .]
Richard Hershberger
+ If by "detectable signature" we mean palpably artificial electromagnetic radiation, then the leading edge is only about a hundred light years from us. This [. . .]
+ I'm sorry, I hate to be overly sensitive but I find the above commend about men's size to be gross and upsetting to me. [. . .]
Richard Hershberger
+ What Maribou said, re the Episcopalians. Were I to find myself in a place without a good Lutheran option, I would look to the [. . .]
Maribou
+ @oscar-gordon @chip-daniels I also have this awareness/alertness, for men, women, agendered, and non-binary people under 25 or so in my case, always have had, and [. . .]
Chip Daniels
+ Maybe its a case of like attracting like. When I read these stories like the one by Mike Cernovich, or any other pickup artist types, what [. . .]
Oscar Gordon
+ Sp1: A question for the astronomers - When an odd planet is found, one that scientists claim shouldn't be in the orbit it is in [. . .]
Oscar Gordon

Sc5: Interesting, but does it scale?

Oscar Gordon
+ Once the atmo begins to change, preserving any part of Mars in a pre-human state will be near to impossible. On the plus side, we will [. . .]

How dare you try to dismiss my demon so succinctly. ;)

Oscar Gordon
+ I don't know what it is, and perhaps the other men in the forum can offer ideas as well, but there is something about a [. . .]
+ @burt-likko My biggest fear writing this was that someone I like and care about would read it and see themselves in it. Please [. . .]
Oscar Gordon
+ I'm in my 40's and quite happily married as well, and if I suddenly found in the dating pool again, 20-somethings would be very much [. . .]
Kolohe
+ Yes, I agree that 'Mars Preservationists' are probably going to be a minority and more than likely lose out. (And on balance, if pressed, I [. . .]
Maribou

@kristin-devine Yeah, that's precisely how I am familiar with the term being used, also.

+ I'm late to the game here, but yes, as far as I'v experienced, the common parlance for an older woman who pursues an attraction with [. . .]
Joe Sal
+ This is a really strong personal perspective Kristin thanks for sharing. (I promised myself I wasn't going to comment on another one of these topics [. . .]
Troublesome Frog
+ The whole "teach kids about religions" thing seems pretty simple to me. I remember covering the basics of the major world religions in public [. . .]
 
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