A look back at some of the movies that stood out in 2016
Earlier you said you aren’t worried about men like me or Lee.
The thing is, *I’m* worried about me. I’m reflecting on a lifetime of existing, wondering what women I may have given #metoo moments too and thinking long and hard about how I can avoid doing that. And how I can raise my sons to think long and hard about how they can avoid doing that. I’m thinking about a new role at work that has me in a position of authority with an almost entirely female workplace (one other male among 25 of us). I’m thinking about a newish relationship with a girlfriend who is still emerging from an emotionally abusive and at times sexually exploitive relationship. I’m considering almost all my interactions with women — past, present, and future — in a new light and thinking about what light I ought to be thinking of them in going forward.
So if I seem more obtuse than usual right now in this conversation, that’s a big reason why. And I’m not asking for sympathy or pity or even real understanding. If anything, this is how I should be feeling right now (and perhaps perpetually).
I was... and am... really trying here. And I was... and am... clearly failing quite a bit. I need to fail less.
I just ask that you and V and others recognize the trying... even if it doesn’t make the failings any less of what they are. If even that ask is unfair, okay then. Another fail, another lesson.